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I know the hamlet of Newtown very well, and considered moving there a couple of years ago when I decided to buy a home in Connecticut. Alas, while the community is very picturesque to the degree of being a living Norman Rockwell painting, it was just too far away from New York City. So I bought a home in southern Connecticut, one that’s near the Metro-North train line, so that I could get in and out easier.

That being said, I do know people in Newtown, good, honest, decent family people. All of them are well, and no one has been touched by the massacre directly.

I’m a staunch advocate of the Second Amendment. But I find myself at an interesting crossroads. We can’t entrust the state to protect us, but allowing some folks easy access to firearms is certainly not working out, either. I wonder what we can do, but I fear the answer.

My deepest condolences to those who know someone, or were themselves affected by, the tragedy that occurred some fifteen or so miles from where I sit writing this.

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  1. December 15, 2012 at 9:50 am

    Keep in mind, no matter how loose or stringent gun laws are, if someone wants a gun, they’ll get it.

    The second amendment has NOTHING to do with the tragedy..that was all caused by sick and depraved minds. If they couldn’t get the guns legally, I’m sure they would have gotten them by other means.

    • December 15, 2012 at 9:50 pm

      Preachng to the choir, Paul. I’m not a fan of gun control, and if Americans really were subjected to bouts of pure, unadulterated rage, we would have seen many more shootings at gun shows. But I am open to reasonable legislation that might be beneficial, though I’m at a loss to divine what that might be, any more than I’m at a loss as to how the US government, which routinely screws stuff up just as a matter of course, could ever come up with a good idea in this regard.

  2. December 15, 2012 at 11:49 am

    I think they’re going to have to lock schools down. They have a strict policy at my daughter’s elementary school. The doors are locked. You have to ring a bell and then when they let you in, your ID is checked. That’s not enough. That’s the same policy they have in Newtown. They’re going to have to lock down schools like the Pentagon. Many parents go to lunch with their kids, giving building access to a lot of people. They will have to start a new policy. No one allowed in, except teachers and children but that would end many things like award ceremonies every six weeks, school presentations, grandparent days, etc. If parents have to pick a child up, they will have to have a freaking bullet proof glass where you approach, give your ID and they bring your child to you. And people say you can’t live in fear. You can’t live your life like that. That’s not living at all. But now, 20 families will wish those kind of policies were in place so they could live. They’ve had to lock down airports. You aren’t allowed past the baggage claim now unless you’re flying. Sadly, this will have to happen at schools too.

    • December 15, 2012 at 9:51 pm

      School physical security needs to be addressed across the board. I would imagine this will only foil the plans of dumb criminals, the same way the TSA keeps catching stupid would-be terrorists, but a start is a start.

  3. December 17, 2012 at 1:49 am

    There is a tragedy along with this tragedy. Imagine what it will say to children when they go to school under lock-down as if they were in prison. I don’t have the answers but our problems run much deeper than these single horrible events. We’ve changed as a nation and as yet we don’t understand what we’ve done. Increased security will address some of the symptoms but it won’t address the disease.

    • December 17, 2012 at 8:53 am

      I’m not sure what to make of the sudden changes in our nation, either. Some people claim it’s guns, but the public has had even easier access to weapons in past decades, and I’m uncertain if such things were occurring in 1965. Some say its media, videogames and film and the like, that cause a huge social disconnect so that kids are unplugged from the rest of the tribe and have no emotional barriers that prevent them from becoming assassins…but are we really this spineless as a society, to allow obvious works of fiction to lead us to reset our moral compass in such a fashion?

      In this case, it’s becoming more apparent that mental illness is the real motivator, be it Asperger’s, a variant of autism, or something else. Adam Lanza clearly had some sort of psychotic break, killed his mother, then drove to someplace where he KNEW he could kill people who would be unable to defend themselves…and then he blew the roof off his own house the second the police show up. So at the end, he was afraid to fight with equally-armed individuals. Something going on there, and I hope we can discover more about this specific facet of the crime.

      • December 17, 2012 at 9:54 am

        I so appreciate your thoughtful and exploratory reply. I do believe that if we root down to the heart of the matter, it resides with our conditioned way of seeing the world that makes us think we are separate one from another. It is at a fundamental level that our undoing resides. If we had even a smidgen of understanding of the interconnectedness that quantum reality is now presenting to us, we would have some sense of solid ground beneath us. What we are seeing now is how early in the life of a human being, the fear and confusion is of ungroundedness is now manifesting. My husband and I work in day cares acrosss three states. The children are starved for a sense of connection, and the parents have little skill and less time to address this growing schism.

  4. MarcW
    December 17, 2012 at 5:42 am

    Horrible beyond words. As far as the ramifications, I couldn’t have said it better than you.

  5. December 17, 2012 at 1:10 pm

    Christina Carson :

    The children are starved for a sense of connection, and the parents have little skill and less time to address this growing schism.

    There’s a remarkable amount of potential in defusing future instances right there. As parents, we need to do more than just provide the basics for our kids, we need to impart to them the vast responsibility they bear as members of a civilization. Sometimes, self-sacrifice is a requirement; empathy is always a good thing; compassion should be the first thing a person should resource when confronting an issue, not anger.

    • December 17, 2012 at 1:47 pm

      TOTALLY agree Steve. In the rush to give today’s kids more experiences from life in general–IE the latest electronic toys, soccer, cheercamp, etc etc, parents have forgotten the most important lessons of all that START AT HOME. Respect for others—their space, things, etc. Get along with others, how to behave in a group; common courtesy

      The only thing kids today are learning from the example of most adults is…”gimme what i want; don’t care about anybody else but MY instant gratification”

      The “idiot box” is NOT a teacher you dipsticks! Nor is the latest video games your kid HAS to have.

      The ONLY things they NEED are Food, Water and Shelter. Teach them how to communicate and interact with others. If you don’t sit down as a family AT LEAST 4 nights a week…you’re robbing yourself of the opportunity to nourish and guide the next Generation.

      Sorry, I didn’t mean to get on my soapbox

      peace \m/

  6. December 18, 2012 at 8:30 am

    This incident is starting many good conversations as we seek deeper into the “why” before knee-jerk, reactionary responses. Gun control should be talked about as should school security. People need to listen and communicate with each other. The eroding of the nuclear family and the departure deeper into a relativistic culture are harming this country. We are teaching instant gratification rather than love and security centered around sound, logical, and nurturing parenting.

    Step back and look at our culture from the outside rather than from within, We may catch a glimpse of the rocky path we are on as a society. It is slowly eroding into a diluted mass of ‘self’ rather than a communal love for those around us,

    I am a Christian and stand unwavering in my views of a One true God through Jesus. Not everyone’s road, I understand. But it is all I am and gives my life purpose, The act of seeking God is what helps me see from a wider perspective. Small decisions made from within our ‘selves’ are not the answer. Really looking at ourselves from a wider perspective trying to fortify what is the greater good for ‘all’ rather than the greater good for ‘me’, may be.

    Peace and love, in a the true gentle love of Jesus.

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